Caring for Mom

Part 2: Tips On How to Ask for Help

Part 2: Tips On How to Ask for Help

The old expression “it takes a village” holds truth even today. Raising a child is a monumental task, and reaching out for help from family and friends can make a huge difference. There will be times when you feel overwhelmed or exhausted and assistance can give you the rejuvenation you need. Follow these tips on how to ask for help and what tasks others can help with when it comes to caring for your child:

  • Let go of the guilt. Keep in mind that asking for help does not mean you’ve failed as a parent. It means you’re making your own needs a priority so that you can better care for your child in the long run. Creating unrealistic expectations leads to stress that can inhibit your ability to be the best parent you can be. Remember that getting help when you need it is not a selfish act, and in fact shows great strength of character.
  • Give instructions, but try not to micromanage. Everyone has their own style of caregiving. While it’s important that family and friends who watch your child know some of the basics, such as how you discipline, what your child should eat and what your sleep routine is, there are bound to be certain ways of caring that don’t mesh with your own style. Try to weigh whether these differences are worth putting your foot down or whether they aren’t significant in the grand scheme of things.
  • Ask for things you actually need. You’ll find plenty of helpers willing to hold and play with your child, but you may have other tasks you really wish someone could help with, such as laundry or cooking meals. It’s OK to ask good friends and family to help with some of these tasks, too. Many friends and family offer to help with “anything you need” and they mean it! This allows you to have more one-on-one time with your child.
  • Consider outsourcing some tasks to professionals. You may also think about temporarily hiring a cleaning service, having groceries delivered or hiring a student to do your yard work. You may not be comfortable asking family or friends to do certain household tasks (it could be awkward to watch a friend tidying up your bedroom), but that doesn’t mean you can’t hire a pro! Taking some household tasks off your plate can free up time to focus on the needs of yourself and your baby.